I am a Teenage Feminist

  1. Okay, let’s talk

    TW: Rape/Rape Culture

    So I’m a little nervous about posting this because there is always the chance that it will make it worse, but I think it’s important. 

    Nearly every singe time I talk about rape or rape culture on this blog I get at least one anonymous rape threat. Almost every single time. 

    And it always freaks me out. Always. 

    I know why I get them. I know it scares rapists and rape apologists that I’m a woman who isn’t taking shit anymore. I know it scares them when someone calls them out on their shit. 

    Rapists thrive on victim blaming. They thrive on a rape culture. Rape culture lets them get away with rape. It scares rapists when we fight rape culture because it means we’re on step closer to not letting them get away with it. 

    So they try to scare us. They try to shut us up.

    Well guess what? I’m not shutting up, and I’m not scared.

    I’m going to call you out on your shit. You’re not getting away with this. 

  2. You Are Not Alone

    Last night I was walking home with someone who made me feel uncomfortable. I didn’t really want to walk with him alone, but I didn’t have any other option. He was following me. To his defense, he wasn’t following me in a menacing way, more in a “lets walk home together way”, but it still made me feel uncomfortable. 

    After he left I thought about how unfair it was that I couldn’t just walk home on my college campus and feel safe. I felt guilty for not feeling safe, like it was somehow my fault. Maybe, I thought, it was all in my head. 

    But the truth is that it’s not all in my head. That if it were all in my head I wouldn’t share this experience with millions of other women. 

    In my Soc class were discussing rape culture when the professor asked the women in the class “How many of you have felt unsafe walking alone in the dark”. Nearly every single woman raised her hand. When she asked the same question to the men in the class none of them raised their hand.

    Rape culture is a powerful thing. It makes us feel unsafe and vulnerable while simultaneously making us feel like it’s our fault for feeling unsafe. 

    It’s not our fault. It’s the society that tells us that we are nothing more than the sum of our parts, that street harassment that makes us feel uncomfortable is a “compliment”, that unwanted sexual advances should be “welcome”.       

    Know that you’re not alone in feeling unsafe, and that it’s not your fault for feeling that way. 

    You’re not alone. 

  3. newtheoryoldlove:

    Shit Men Say to Men Who Say Shit to Women on the Street


    If she’s not interested, it’s not a compliment, and you’re not just appreciating a pretty lady. You’re actually bothering her. 

    Love it! 

    “Misogyny super sexy“ 

  4. It’s crazy how apologetic we’re socialized to be

    There is a man who sexually harassed/borderline assaulted a member of a group I am a part of here. The leader of the group talked to him about it. He apologized and left the group. He said he didn’t know what he was doing.

    Now he’s following around/borderline stalking another woman who belongs to another group I belong to. 

    It’s ridiculous because even though I know his behavior is inexcusable I still find myself making excuses for him. Like I’ll think “well maybe he just has really bad social skills”, “maybe he doesn’t know how to interact with women”, “he’s probably not doing it on purpose”. 

    Which is all BULLSHIT 

    Like, if you make women uncomfortable. That’s the man’s fault, not the woman who feels uncomfortable. There are no excuses for his behavior, yet I still find myself making excuses for him. 

    It scares me because I’m a HUGE feminist. I know what rape culture is. I try my best to fight against it. And I’m STILL thinking these things. Which means that other people who don’t have the background I do must think these things on a regular basis.

    It’s so sick. 

    And so scary. 

  5. "

    Now because the majority of abortions are performed in the first trimester, if you’re going to get an ultrasound image, as the Virginia law requires, the law states, basically, that any woman seeking to have a legal procedure known as an abortion, whether she wants to or not, first lay back in a chair, spread her legs, (put her) feet in stirrups, and have an eight- to ten-inch wand put inside her — even if the woman in question is pregnant as the result of a rape.

    I don’t really have a joke here. I just thought I’d tell you.

    "

    JON STEWART, on Virginia’s inhumane, inhuman and shameful “personhood” law that requires women wanting to get an abortion to, in essence, be subject to rape, on The Daily Show (via inothernews)

    It doesn’t matter how many times I read about the VA law, I shudder every time. 

  6. reelaroundthefountain: [trigger warning for rape] yes Assange is a villain because he is a rapist obviously the the U.S. government is pissed off at him for reasons that I don’t agree with related to freedom of information, but that doesn’t change that Assange is a rapist and does not deserve to be the man of the year ever But don’t cha’ know: releasing classified government documents is more important than the fact that he’s a rapist. /sarcasm. I see Julian Assange as just another example of how liberals are willing to throw women under the bus when women aren’t convenient for them.  

    reelaroundthefountain:

    [trigger warning for rape]

    yes Assange is a villain because he is a rapist

    obviously the the U.S. government is pissed off at him for reasons that I don’t agree with related to freedom of information, but that doesn’t change that Assange is a rapist and does not deserve to be the man of the year ever

    But don’t cha’ know: releasing classified government documents is more important than the fact that he’s a rapist.

    /sarcasm.

    I see Julian Assange as just another example of how liberals are willing to throw women under the bus when women aren’t convenient for them.  

  7. I have no words

    iamateenagefeminist:

    Trigger Warning: Victim Blaming

    I am so mad that I have nothing to say right now…

    This will be edited later when I get my senses back

    I have many asks in my box right now that are trying to defend this facebook status. The main argument seems to be that the status isn’t about “real” rape victims, it’s about women who cry rape because they are embarrassed about their sexual past. 

    Well, I’ll let you in on a little secret; the number of falsely reported rapes is so minimal it is hardly a blip on the radar screen: only 2% of all rape accusations are thought to be false. 

    However, the number of rapes that aren’t reported to the police ever hovers around 60%.   

    Sixty percent. That’s over half. The majority of rapes committed are never reported to the police. 

    Why? 

    Often it’s because the victim blames herself, because in our society your taught you won’t get raped if you do everything “right”. If you’re a virgin and you dress conservatively and you don’t go out at night, then you won’t get raped.

    But if you’re a whore?

    Well then, it’s your own damn fault.

    Over and over and over again women are fed these messages, and eventually it works. Women internalize what happened to them, they blame themselves and they don’t report it.

    We’re also told that rape isn’t committed by “nice guys”. Our brothers, friends, and husbands could never commit something as horrible as rape. If a “nice guy” is accused of sexual violence, it’s gotta be because a whore lied, right?

    Except that’s not how it is.

    73% of sexual assaults are committed by someone the victim knows.  66% of those offenders are a friend or an intimate.

    Friends
    Husbands
    Boyfriends

    Rape is rape the moment consent is not given. 

    Consent is a clear and sober “yes”. 

    Consent is not the absence of a “no”. Consent once does not mean consent every time.

    This status is harmful because it reinforces the status quo: some rape victims are “real” and some are just trying to cover up being “whores” and harming the lives of “nice guys” in the process. 

    When reality is nothing like that. 

  8. I have no words

    Trigger Warning: Victim Blaming

    I am so mad that I have nothing to say right now…

    This will be edited later when I get my senses back

  9. »   PA Liquor Control Board to teens: Rape is your fault, and your friends’ fault!

    ladyatheist:

    Fuck you Pennsylvania!

    This is horrific! Reblog, spread the word and call the PA liquor council. We have got to get these ads off the street. 

  10. There is this list of tips for women who want to “prevent” an attack going around tumblr

    Let me tell you why that list is super super problematic. 

    There is no 100% way to keep oneself from getting attacked. The only way to prevent attacks is to not attack someone, something that has NOTHING to do with the victims choices. 

    So this list, talking about hairstyles and fighting back and parking garages really does nothing to protect anyone. 

    Instead it just makes people who have been attacked feel like there was something, anything they could of done to prevent it. 

    It makes victims blame themselves. 
    It makes people think they “should have seen it coming”.

    These tips for “protecting yourself” is one of the worst forms of victim blaming there is, because most people don’t recognize it as such.

    Yet, it still has the same horrible effects that “don’t dress like a slut has”.

    In fact, often times these “tips” are even worse because they prevent people from doing what they want to do out of fear.

    Oh, I can’t wear this hairstyle because it makes me more likely to be attacked.
    Oh, I can’t drive at night because it makes me more likely to be attacked.
    Oh, I can’t use that restroom because it makes me more likely to be attacked.

    People should NEVER have to change their life because they fear being assaulted. Nothing anyone can do will prevent assault, so there is nothing we should change about our life to try to.   

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